Tuesday, December 18, 2012

WHAT TO MAKE OF THE TRAGEDY




The pain, agony, frustration and despair of this recent tragedy well expressed by this hand sculpted by Rodan.


Now, many ask, "What can be done?
I continue to go back to the necessity for our culture to face its shadow.
This tragic event was a vivid and too painful example of shadow expressing itself big time!

I believe the best way for us to face our shadow is through arts, entertainment and media.
People need to be "tricked" into facing that shadow. Laughter is probably the best way, which is why I have been focusing on developing a program where the shadow is revealed through comedy and art.
Once the shadow is acknowledged, then readily available steps can be taken to release it and to shift to a creative approach to life. Creativity and imagination are what will ultimately enable us to invent whatever means are required to shift attitudes and behaviors

I'd be very interested in other ideas, but as of now, this is still the best I can come up with.
If we don't face and heal our shadow, how will we ever recover from the damage and the negative conditioning that drives us insane?
I also have to remind myself that we are a very  immature species and only time, experience and developing wisdom will mature us.

I am reminded of the statement by Martin Buber, the Jewish philosopher, when he says that, "All real living is meeting."
The way I interpret that is that everyone wants and needs to be met--authentically. Much of our attempts at the "meeting' are superficical at best, and unfortuntely it sometimes takes tragic events to motivate us to more earnestly seek that meeting.
As A Course in Miracles says, "Strengthening the motivation to change is the first step."
So....a campaign to strengthen the motivation to change is in order.
I'm very motivated and I know you are.
Think on't!
Andy Rumi
 

Saturday, December 1, 2012

MANAGING TRANSITION GRACEFULLY

Picture of bottle with funny animal with saying, "You don't have to hold on to dear life. Dear life is holding on to you."

 

  I had two mentors in my early theatrical career in the early sixties. One was my acting teacher and the other was my dance teacher. Both of these women told me, "All art is in the transition." Getting from here to there. 
    That perspective has served me well as an artist and in life. Now, I am calling upon that insight once again as my partner, Rochelle, and I face a dramatic transition.
    We are being asked to move by our mortgage company. Well maybe "asked" is downplaying it a bit. Nevertheless, here we are both in our 7th decade and we have to take our stuff  (what we decide to keep) and go somewhere else.
    Right now we don't know where we're going.  While this situation, which includes having very limited income, might engender fear  (it certainly does in many of the people we tell about it--one of people's worst fears is running out of money and being homeless), we are choosing to see it as an exciting creative opportunity. (some may think we're in denial.  If so, so be it.  A lot more joyful than worry and anxiety. Besides, what did worry ever achieve?) This situation also gives us the chance to put into practice one of the concepts from The Urantia Book which has greatly influenced our lives.
    "Uncertainty with security is the essence of the Paradise adventure..."
    The "Paradise Adventure" translated out of Urantia Book jargon means the process of evolving our souls in a never ending evolutionary development that leads to unimaginable creative potential as beings in a far flung universe...or words to that effect.
    The challenge then for us mortals who are going through significant transitions is to stay centered in the faith that we are secure in the Divine embrace, while circumstances are fraught with uncertainty, including danger, confusion, and turmoil. As the photo above suggest, "You don't have to hold on for dear life. Dear life is holding on to youl"
    So, going through this transition gracefully and with confidence is the class we're in. My hope is that we will have a story to tell that will assist and empower others who are or will be going through difficult transitions--dying to one thing and giving birth to something brand new.!

Game on!
Think on't!

Saturday, October 27, 2012





HOW TO LAUGH YOUR AGE OFF AND WHY IT'S SO IMPORTANT!

Rochelle and I are on a mission to laugh our age off because……


When it gets right down to it, what is most important to you?
Your health? Your family? Security? Fun? Pleasure? Making a difference? Joy? Service? Living a long vital life? Your children? Your grand children and their health and well being?

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The older we get the more the long healthy vital life takes precedent over everything else (except your children’s children, of course)
Don’t you want to be that positive force in the lives of your family, friends and neighbors as all of you grow older?

These are the real issues behind “Laugh Your Age Off,” because every time we can laugh at what bugs us about ourselves, about our limitations, about aging, about pain and loss, we instantly become a more joyful presence and when we’re more full of joy, we become a more effective source of life and inspiration for others…..not to mention ourselves.

So, don’t think our plan for a YouTube video series, “Laugh Your Age Off,” is a trivial thing.  We’re talking some serious laughter here—well, some serious subjects, anyway that deserve the laughter treatment.

Here’s a list of some the issues that we all face and that can cause us to….well…….take ourselves, and the problem, way too seriously.

·        Anything that makes us worry, fret, or angst over--like financial or health worries.
·        Limitations and frustrations like the increasing frequency to forget where we put things.
·        Dealing with other aging folks, especially when they make the shift in our awareness from being people we care about to being……well…..assholes. Very important time to inject some humor in the relationship.
·        How about loneliness?  There is not a reason why any human being on earth should ever feel lonely. One thing we don’t have any lack of is people.  And we are committed to helping you laugh at all the reasons for loneliness away, post haste. Once revealed they’re pretty laughable.
·        Then there’s death, fear of death and grief. Not much laughter in dying or grief, you might say. Agreed. But what can comfort us when we do grieve are loving hearts filled with compassion and understanding, and all the laughing at ourselves prepares us to be those heartfelt and supportive people.

For instance, think of the many people who are right now sitting in hospital rooms anxiously awaiting to hear about the recovery of their loved ones. (Rochelle and I were two of those people a couple of days ago, and are still eagerly waiting to hear about our dear friend, Karen’s recovery.) A large dollop of being able to laugh at ourselves goes a long way to relieve our stress, don’t you think?

Indeed, when we are concerned about others we naturally reach for the medicine of laughter to massage our souls.  So think of “Laugh Your Age Off,” as your good humor medicine chest that will be available to you on YouTube any time you need it. Plus, by being a contributor, you’ll get our weekly newsletter where you’ll learn the art and craft of making light of painful stuff.

Rochelle and I have learned the tricks of being able to turn troublesome issues, like aging (which is really living) into joy and laughter (we’ve had to—the alternative was way too much pain) and we just want to share those tricks with you.

Each “episode” of “Laugh Your Age Off,”  we will use different tricks to mitigate the negative and unnecessary aspects of aging (living). So, not only will you be laughing your age off (and yes, even laugh your ass off) you will come away from each video with some tricks up your sleeve so that when you meet someone who’s taking life all too seriously, you will be able to trick them into a much needed giggle or guffaw.

Believe me, everyone in your sphere of influence will be grateful to you, and you will be grateful to you, cause when you’re laughing, my friend, particularly at the things that are hard to laugh at—especially about yourself, you will feel a 100 times lighter.

And, besides a fabulous orgasm, there’s no better way to get into the present, where all the love of life is, than through a hearty laugh.
So join us…for Laugh Your age off. You’ll feel healthier, lighter, move loving, and of course…..younger.
Go to http://www.kickstarter.com/projects/1741276877/laugh-your-age-off-you-tube-comedy-series?ref=email

Wednesday, September 19, 2012



THE VALUE OF LOSING THINGS

I’m assuming you lose things…and it pisses you off.  You get scared. Maybe you feel guilty……or stupid.  Maybe you want to blame somebody else, but you know it’s your own damn fault.  Perhaps these phrases come to mind, “I just had it?”  “Where did I leave that?”  or even, “It’s those damn thieving gremlins taking my stuff again and hiding them from me …….out of spite.”

Or maybe you’re like my wife, Rochelle who is famous for  exclaiming, “I’ve lived with this man for over 37 years and not a day goes by without him saying some version of,  “Rochelle, where is my….(fill in the blank)?”  And BTW,” she continues, “he’s getting worse with age.”

I can’t argue with her. I must spend at least 5% of my day looking for shit. And what makes it even worse?  You know how you keep looking for something for awhile even after you’ve found it and you have to remind yourself that, it’s okay, you found it.  You can relax.  Well that takes off another 2% of our day.

Well, I’ve gotten to the point that I forget that I remembered that I found it and so I have to look for the memory. Oi!

Yeah, this is nuts.
Well, I’ve got good news for you. There are at least two benefits from losing things.

The first is obvious and you no doubt have discovered it—how good you feel when you find it.  As a matter of fact, you may feel so good in finding it that you almost wish you could lose it again, so you can experience the high in finding it.

(I’m currently looking forward to that moment as I lost my cherished silver bracelet a couple of weeks ago and was so happy to have found it.  Well, guess what…right….I lost it again…And while it causes me and my wife (who compulsively gets caught up in the looking—value of marrying a co-dependent) stress, annoyance and aggravation, there is this anticipation of the endorphin rush when it is found. (which we hope is soon. And if you want to know where it is, send me an email and we’ll tell you. Maybe you can even share in the jubilation.)

BTW.  Rochelle has vowed to not get caught up in looking for my things (since it is not just a daily activity, but often happen several times a day), but like me, who has also made a vow--- to remember where I put things--we are failing.

But wait!  Here is the other great benefit of losing things. And you can reap this reward whether you find your thing or not.  When you start poking about and looking for the missing item, you find other things that you didn’t know you lost and maybe didn’t even know you had and didn’t realize how much you valued.  The delight in finding them is just as good an endorphin rush. You might find yourself exclaiming:

“I wondered where I put that.”  “Oh, my God…there’s the…….”  “Man, can I use that.”  “I’m so glad I didn’t throw that away.”  “OMG, I really bought that!” Or even, “Gees, that really stinks. better get rid of it before my partner smells it.”

You see, I’ve just listed several possible scenarios that will produce a “finding things orgasm.”  And get this, the more things you lose things, the more poking about. And the more surprise discoveries! 

And if you really get lucky, you will even find some precious bobble that you’ve long given up hope of ever retrieving. And when that happens…..well….remember the scene at the restaurant in When Harry Meets Sally, when Sally was pretending to have an orgasm  you might be just like the woman sitting at the next table, when the waiter asks you, “What do you want?”  You’ll find yourself  blurting out ………………“I want what she’s finding!”

Think on’t
Andy Rumi

Thursday, September 13, 2012

There's No Time Like the Present!

Dear Friends and (I hope) fellow sojourners seeking helpful perspectives while traversing this rough and mumble lifetime, I'm blogging again after a two year absence (during which time I went through another inning of "Dark Night of the Soul- scored is tied.)

But as Arnold Soldyournature would say, "I'm baaack"
And have I got news for you!
Remember when you heard the phrase, "There's no time like the present."  Were you present then to hear it? What about now? 
In other words, if there's no time like it, "the present" isn't like any other time.

If it's 5:45 PM, for instance, the present isn't like that.  
Sometimes, I believe it's 8:20 AM, but when I get to 8:21 and check back, I realize once again, "There's just no time like the present."
So after trying a whole bunch of times to truly prove that there was no time like the present (3:40 PM came close, but only on Fridays), I've decided to see what "the present" is like.
What I discover is that the present is distinct from all other time related phenomena because it  includes and transcends them all.
Hints: 
The present is the place you go when you listen to a compelling piece of music.
Orgasm will get you present, and, of course, having a baby.

So being really present takes a bit of non-doing. 
The present is doing you!

Think on't
Andy Rumi